What’s the goal supposed to be when I’m trying to meditate.
I’m still not clear about what the goal is supposed to be when I’m trying to meditate.
One of the fun but confusing things about learning mindfulness is getting comfortable with all the paradoxes. One thing we learn is that in this practice the harder we strive towards a particular outcome, the less likely it is to occur. For example, if you sit down to meditate determined to create a particular state of relaxation, and you get all wound up and determined to MAKE it happen, it’s not likely to happen. The paradox is this: the more you are willing to open to the moment and accept things as they are without being too attached to the idea of relaxing, the more likely it is you will experience the benefits of feeling focused and relaxed. It’s the willingness to let go of thoughts and stay focused in the moment that allows your body and mind to relax. So you can get what you want, but only if you don’t try to get what you want. Confusing, huh?
The problem is though, that most people are not going to go to the trouble to meditate if they don’t have some goal they are trying to accomplish like the ones you guys mentioned last week: trying to decrease stress, improve sleep and improve concentration. That’s why you are all here learning this new practice. One helpful way to think about it, is to keep your goals in mind as you are making the time and preparing to practice. However, as soon as you begin your period of meditation, try to let go of the goals, and just practice staying present, accepting whatever arises in each moment.