I don’t know how to decide to accept things.
I feel like I’ve made a lot of progress. I’m feeling less stressed and that’s cool. But I’m still having a hard time with the acceptance bit. I mean, I don’t know how to decide to accept things.
You may be getting hung up on the idea that you have to “decide” about acceptance.
Acceptance is not a cognitive exercise. It’s not about thinking and deciding to accept something. Acceptance is simply just becoming aware, because when you become aware, you see things as they are. In that moment you let go of the need for anything to be different because you are just seeing things as they are. No judgment. No struggle.
So if you are in a situation you really don’t like, you don’t have to decide to accept it. You certainly don’t have to decide to like it. All you have to do is become aware of how you are feeling and thinking in this moment.
The moment you bring your awareness to your present moment experience, you are experiencing acceptance. Deciding to accept a situation is just more thinking; noticing how this moment feels is the act of acceptance.